Not sure if right spot to post but anyway moving on.
There is this girl that works at city brew, pretty and gorgeous. I’m a fat ugly ■■■■. Anyway, when I see her she always said hi, waved at me and smiled. So I thought, hmm maybe she likes me. So I walked out and was being a bit sly in snooping. Next day I go get my usual huckleberry chai tea and thought I would ask her out in a sleak way. So I ask her as friend what sh was doing this weekend and she said she might be going Ice Fishing with her boyfriends dad. I said, oh cool. I never been Ice Fishing, Well I hope you have fun. Anyway we had our talks and she remembers what I usually get at city brew. Last time I walked in I was having an okay day and she asked me If I was working or my day off. Told her I quit the job b|c reasons and she bought my drink for me. She didn’t have to but she did. So I said thank like 5 times and told her if she needed any help I would definitely come.help. She smiled and I walked out.
Is she being a friendly flirt or just being nice? I’m not use to people buying me stuff. I know I should ask on a different forum but you all rock. ~:)
Why? She might consider you a friend and just being friendly or she might have feelings for you. You can’t know that unless you ask her out. Show her your intentions, that is your job as a man
@Frank I kinda found out by asking her what she was doing Saturday when I asked her as I explained in the post. She said she might be going Ice fishing with her boyfriends dad. After that week, she apparently didn’t go when I asked her how Ice fishing went and she said she ended up helping family instead.
@STN So asking a girl what they are doing this weekend isn’t actually asking her out? Interesting. Lol.
She gave you a drink, right? Offer a drink when she gets off work. That always works in the movies. If she accepts the drink but later refuses your dating invitation, sneak some rohyphenol into her drink while she goes to the bathroom. Then you can take her to your fortress of solitude where you will live happily ever after.
You should of tried harder. I almost laughed like I did in dead pool movie. Now that was hard not laughing at. ~:) But I’ll try you’re advice, the latter not the first…:~)
Honestly, if she already has a boyfriend then I would lay off. Plenty of fish in the sea.
Sounds like she’s just overly friendly with you.
Lastly, don’t be so self-conscious of yourself and your looks. The more confidence you have in yourself, the easier of a time you’ll have getting with chicks. I suggest buying some weights or getting a gym membership and start working out. Not only will you get in shape, but you will feel better about yourself, you will have confidence. Let me tell you right now, no girl will go out with a guy who calls himself a fat ugly ■■■■. I think you need to work on yourself before focusing on the dating game.
@Zodiac thanks. I’d go get a gym membership but its $45 every month. If I could get my bicycle on the other hand, I’d drop pounds by the month it seemed like. Its fun and forces you to think how far you can go before you get tired and have to walk back, plus you get ran over by semi- on a reg. Basis. Lol. I just was making sure she wasn’t flirting, its hard for me to tell.
$45 a month is what they WANT you to pay. You can always bargain with them. Remember, gym’s make more money if you sign up with them opposed to not signing up with them, they’ll be willing to negotiate cause if they don’t they’re losing out on that money they could be making.
Lets say the gym isn’t willing to negotiate, just join a local gym near your house, it doesn’t have to be LA Fitness or The UFC Gym, hell as long as it has a treadmill, elliptical and weights you’ll be fine.
You don’t need a gym if you can’t afford it. Just go for a walk/jog every day, or even once every few days. If you can buy some dumbells or a weight bench that’ll help too, and it will be more cost effective in the long run. Just don’t make excuses not to do it.
@OP she’s just a nice person probably. You’re going to get your hopes up. She has a boyfriend and has so far only been nice and polite: nothing more. Be a nice aquanlntance.
Just letting you know, I’m in small country. Nearest gym is in big town. It’s not just a gym though, members get to use the swimming pool, weight room, mountain climbing, and all the things they have. I’d love to go use the weight room but I don’t like working out in public.
@Zodiac I know. I probably will start working out when I get motivated to. Used to ride a bicycle every day 16 miles. Started small and worked it up.
@Manga That’s what I thought, I just didn’t want her making me her backup plan. Just friends.
Yeah. I guess you could say I was a regular coming in. Remembered my drink and name. Second I don’t like chasing woman, I just want to make sure they aren’t flirting on me especially if they have a boyfriend. I like to go places and most girls I know doesn’t like traveling so I turn them down or quite literally state that I’ll be going somewhere else. So if I do end up with a girl, I want to make sure they like to travel. That is wht I was curious if she was just being overly friendly or flirting.
If you ever change your standpoint about the whole “drug, kidnap and rape” thing, a van with tanned windows and sound isolating interior would be perfect.
